To you. Ms north of north. Kudos. It's amazing how your brain can flow through your fingers so fluidly. Love it.
For me,the only writing that has appeared on paper is that writing I am convinced the Divine has written for me, or with me or maybe more accurately, through me. I reread a piece I wrote about 2 years ago and marveled at my (our) ability to write what was actually on my heart. That's what writing does. It does give us clarity and the ability to have a voice to our true being without all the outside noise.
Keep writing! And not only the heavy things that press hard on your heart, but even all the sweet moments—the everyday things. Looking back on these is enlightening as well. It reminds me that the darkness doesn't always encapsulate everything when I think it does.
Lorene, thank you for saying this — I know it comes from a good place. And in some seasons of my life, I’ve clung to positive thinking like it was a lifeline. So I get where you’re coming from.
What I’ve been learning lately, especially from PDA-aware nervous-system folks like @PeaceParents, is that for some of us, the shutdown happens before the logical part of the brain even gets a chance to join the conversation. It’s wild how fast it happens — the body goes straight into survival mode, and the thinking brain basically steps out of the room.
So it’s not that positive thoughts don’t help; it’s that in those moments, they’re not accessible. The nervous system has to feel safe first. Only then can the “positive focus” stuff actually land.
I’m sharing this because it’s been a huge shift for me — realizing that what looks like a mindset issue for neurodivergents (especially PDAers) is often just our body trying to protect itself. And honestly, understanding that has given me more peace than anything else.
To you. Ms north of north. Kudos. It's amazing how your brain can flow through your fingers so fluidly. Love it.
For me,the only writing that has appeared on paper is that writing I am convinced the Divine has written for me, or with me or maybe more accurately, through me. I reread a piece I wrote about 2 years ago and marveled at my (our) ability to write what was actually on my heart. That's what writing does. It does give us clarity and the ability to have a voice to our true being without all the outside noise.
Here's to Divinely inspired writing.
Keep writing! And not only the heavy things that press hard on your heart, but even all the sweet moments—the everyday things. Looking back on these is enlightening as well. It reminds me that the darkness doesn't always encapsulate everything when I think it does.
How true. The more we focus on the positive I am told it retrains our brain to think positive instead of living in fight or flight.
Lorene, thank you for saying this — I know it comes from a good place. And in some seasons of my life, I’ve clung to positive thinking like it was a lifeline. So I get where you’re coming from.
What I’ve been learning lately, especially from PDA-aware nervous-system folks like @PeaceParents, is that for some of us, the shutdown happens before the logical part of the brain even gets a chance to join the conversation. It’s wild how fast it happens — the body goes straight into survival mode, and the thinking brain basically steps out of the room.
So it’s not that positive thoughts don’t help; it’s that in those moments, they’re not accessible. The nervous system has to feel safe first. Only then can the “positive focus” stuff actually land.
I’m sharing this because it’s been a huge shift for me — realizing that what looks like a mindset issue for neurodivergents (especially PDAers) is often just our body trying to protect itself. And honestly, understanding that has given me more peace than anything else.